In announcing the arrival of our 2nd child we have received such great support coming from both friends and family. Some are so supportive that I feel they might be brainwashed into thinking weâ€™ll be luckier this time around. I know they must be thinking â€˜surely nothing can happen to their child this time?â€™ I want to believe the guarantee they are preaching but itâ€™s hard when I know they are just giving us a lame generic response that people tend to give when something bad happens to people.
- â€œLighting canâ€™t strike twiceâ€
- â€œThe baby will be fine this timeâ€
- â€œThis time it will be differentâ€
- â€œYou WILL have a child liveâ€
Although your words are sweet â€“ they also hold no merit. Sure, this pregnancy has been different. It took our daughter to sacrifice her life in order to get proper treatment for our 2nd child. And yes, because of her sacrifice â€“ our son might just have a shot at survival.
But life still happensâ€¦
Through attending my bereavement groups, Iâ€™ve met loads of different parents who lost their kids in different ways. And some even lost more than one. What do you tell those parents? Well, hopefully not the same generic response Iâ€™ve been receiving.
I donâ€™t know what the alternate response should be. But please be assured, I know you care for us, you loved Amelie dearly and ultimately want this 2nd baby of ours to live. We appreciate your thoughts, wishful thinking and love. After all, we're on the same page.
I hear you loud and clear about the comments. We're just not naive anymore, though we do know those who say these things are just hoping for the best as much as we are. Hang in there and know that Amelie is holding you and her baby brother in her angel arms.